Hello Ladies,

Let’s talk purity. As young women we are often told we need to be sexually pure which is well…a nice idea…but it’s time to be honest. Is sexual purity even possible? Is this even an attainable goal? You may be thinking that I am crazy by this point but lets just think out loud here for a bit. Grab a nice cup of coffee, a blanket, curl up and lets chat. As women, we are told we lose our purity when we lose our virginity but is it possible that we never actually lose our purity through our virginity. To lose something requires that we had it at some point prior. This leads to the question of, were we ever truly pure? Going back to the beginning we can see we are born sons and daughters of Adam therefore we are born sinners. We will always be tempted by sexual impurity and that doesn’t just mean premarital sex or homosexuality. Sexual impurity can be as simple as lusting after a man, thinking a little too much about that guy, or even fantasizing about a future with a man that is not even yours. No matter how much we like to think we can be completely pure…thats not possible as human beings in a fallen world. If we look at the word pure it means…

-Free of Contamination


-Untainted by Immorality

-Perfectly in Tune



…I don’t know about you but I don’t think this fits any of us. How could it? Now, to be clear, I am not saying, do whatever you want and don’t worry about being pure. This is a virtue we are to be constantly working on. Key word here though is WORKING. We will never be perfect at this but if we are truly calling ourselves followers of Jesus then we should be constantly focusing on becoming more like Him. This is not going to be easy. The Bible says to put to death these types of sin. Put to death is a serious action that takes effort. Something doesn’t just die from being looked at but rather we have to be constantly fighting this idol with truth.

“Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.”

Colossians 3:5

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.

Philippians 4:8

So maybe you have some friends that don’t struggle with the same type of sexual impurity that you do…that does not mean God doesn’t love them or you any less. The amazing thing about God is that if you truly believe in Him, when He sees you…He doesn’t see that sin…He sees His Son. Your sexual sins does not define who you are. God defines who you are by what He sees.

So if all you think of when you think of sexual purity is not having premarital sex…I hope this opens your perspective. To the women who have already “lost their purity” …there is hope and restoration through Jesus Christ and we are all working towards purity through Christ. Wherever you are at…don’t forget God has a plan for your life and desires to be near to you…so lets be near.


Much Love, Bible and the Bean

2 thoughts on “Purity Isn’t All Its Cracked Up To Be…

  1. Such excellent truth. I used to view purity as a line that shouldn’t be crossed; now I see that it is a path – a way that you strive to live. And no, there is no attaining it or maintaining it in this earthly life. As much as I value saving sex for marriage, I realize this does not give a complete or accurate picture of a person’s purity – least of all mine!


  2. That is so true and I love that you brought up the “line” idea like it’s something to be crossed. Rather than asking “how far can I go” we should be asking “How is this affecting my personal walk with the Lord, is it glorifying to Him?”. Thanks so much for your input!


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