Purity Isn’t All Its Cracked Up To Be…

Hello Ladies,

Let’s talk purity. As young women we are often told we need to be sexually pure which is well…a nice idea…but it’s time to be honest. Is sexual purity even possible? Is this even an attainable goal? You may be thinking that I am crazy by this point but lets just think out loud here for a bit. Grab a nice cup of coffee, a blanket, curl up and lets chat. As women, we are told we lose our purity when we lose our virginity but is it possible that we never actually lose our purity through our virginity. To lose something requires that we had it at some point prior. This leads to the question of, were we ever truly pure? Going back to the beginning we can see we are born sons and daughters of Adam therefore we are born sinners. We will always be tempted by sexual impurity and that doesn’t just mean premarital sex or homosexuality. Sexual impurity can be as simple as lusting after a man, thinking a little too much about that guy, or even fantasizing about a future with a man that is not even yours. No matter how much we like to think we can be completely pure…thats not possible as human beings in a fallen world. If we look at the word pure it means…

-Free of Contamination


-Untainted by Immorality

-Perfectly in Tune



…I don’t know about you but I don’t think this fits any of us. How could it? Now, to be clear, I am not saying, do whatever you want and don’t worry about being pure. This is a virtue we are to be constantly working on. Key word here though is WORKING. We will never be perfect at this but if we are truly calling ourselves followers of Jesus then we should be constantly focusing on becoming more like Him. This is not going to be easy. The Bible says to put to death these types of sin. Put to death is a serious action that takes effort. Something doesn’t just die from being looked at but rather we have to be constantly fighting this idol with truth.

“Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.”

Colossians 3:5

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.

Philippians 4:8

So maybe you have some friends that don’t struggle with the same type of sexual impurity that you do…that does not mean God doesn’t love them or you any less. The amazing thing about God is that if you truly believe in Him, when He sees you…He doesn’t see that sin…He sees His Son. Your sexual sins does not define who you are. God defines who you are by what He sees.

So if all you think of when you think of sexual purity is not having premarital sex…I hope this opens your perspective. To the women who have already “lost their purity” …there is hope and restoration through Jesus Christ and we are all working towards purity through Christ. Wherever you are at…don’t forget God has a plan for your life and desires to be near to you…so lets be near.


Much Love, Bible and the Bean

Lies Women Tell Themselves

I am not pretty enough. I am the only one that feels this way. I am not good enough. I am a failure. I am too quiet/loud. I am not worthy. Nobody cares what I have to say. I am too young.


Ladies! Please stop telling yourself these horrible lies. So often we can find ourselves making these excuses up in our heads when we don’t feel adequate to do something. I can’t be involved in that because I won’t fit in. I can’t help with this because I am too quiet and shy. I can’t go to that event because I wasn’t personally invited (even though it was on the bulletin addressed to all women). No man will ever marry me because I am not pretty enough or I am not a “strong enough Christian”. Are you kidding me? God has created you a masterpiece. God has created you to be a helper. And no this doesn’t mean some second hand, do as I tell you robot, but rather God calls women helpers as a complement. God refers to women with this term as He also refers to the Holy Spirit as being to us. Now I don’t know about you ladies but if God is calling me by a term that He is willing to use for Himself, I should feel more than honored to take that title when my Creator gave it to me. God has created you for good works.

“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”

Ephesians 2:10 

God created you knowing everything about you and yet still wanting a relationship with you (Psalm 139).  So I urge you do not be discouraged and do not continue to tell yourself these lies. Stop fearing man and start fearing God. For you have a God who is strong, and will carry you. You have a God who has already walked through the battle before you even see the battle.

“Cast your burdens on the Lord, and He will sustain you; He will never permit the righteous to be moved.” 

Psalm 55:22

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” 

Philippians 4:6-7 

I urge you don’t be content with just believing you will fight these lies when they come but instead prepare ahead of time so that you may battle well against these lies. Don’t be afraid to write down these lies when you think of them and search Scripture for answers. I still have a piece of scrapbook paper in my Bible from a few years ago that has lies that I have believed and Scripture that combats those lies…as I look at the paper today, many of the verses used to fight these lies I have memorized due from quoting them so often to myself and it has truly been a blessing in my life to be able to quote back Scripture as these lies enter my thoughts.

I am a child of God — John 1:12

I am a friend of Jesus — John 15:15

I am made righteous — 2 Corinthians 5:21

I have been justified — Romans 5:1

I have been redeemed — Ephesians 1:7

I am loved — John 15:9

I am a masterpiece — Ephesians 2:10

I am a new creation — 2 Corinthians 5:17

I am created in God’s image — Genesis 1:27

I am free from sin — Ephesians 3:12

I am a co-heir with Christ — James 2:5

I am called — 2 Timothy 1:9

I am victorious through Christ — John 16:33

I am bought with a price — 1 Corinthians 7:23

I am who God says I am.


~Much Love, Bible and the Bean