Today’s society puts a bad twist on singleness. So often when we are not in a relationship, we think we are behind on the agenda and could even feel the need to fill that position just to fill it. It is so hard to be satisfied with being in this stage of life. It is so hard to rejoice with others that are not in the stage of singleness.
The great thing about this topic is that we can ultimately know that God has a plan. He has a perfect plan and if we are seeking His will for our life, it will all work out. As for me, I have been doing the single life for the past 3 years and its real hard. I often question God, asking Him “Why are you putting all these people around me that are in relationships? God, you are giving me these desires so why can’t you just fulfill them now?” I have found myself praying for God to take these desires away if He is not going to fulfill them. After praying this for a while I started looking at what I was really praying. I wasn’t just praying for God to take away the desires He gave me but I was praying for Him to change His plans for my life. Who am I to know the perfect plans He has created for my life! God is worthy of so much praise, why would I think that I could plan my life better than the Creator of the whole universe. After looking at where I am in life right now, I have come to the realization that it is probably not the best idea for me to be dating someone at this point. Being a sophomore in college
After looking at where I am in life right now, I am starting to see the plans God has made for me. If you had asked me a year ago what I would be doing in 10 years it would be completely different from what I would say now. Looking back on different situations in my life, God has provided the perfect path. He has opened doors He has wanted to open and He has closed doors He has wanted to close. Everything in my life is to point to Christ. All of the fruit that is produced on these branches of mine are only possible because of the vine I am connected to. Without the Vine, I would never be able to bear fruit…I would not even exist. When I start dating I want the man to encourage me in my walk with the Lord but before I can be at that point, I believe God has a bit more work to do in my life to mold my heart into a heart desiring Him. Over these last 2 years specifically, God has been teaching me about the concept of rejoicing and mourning.
“Rejoice with those who rejoice; weep with those who weep.”
So if you are in the boat of singleness focus on rejoicing with those who are in that other stage of life but also realize that God has a plan for you. Don’t waste the season of life you are in now because you want the next one to come. Continue to produce fruit but also continue to point back to the Vine that made it possible. Focus on today and what God has for you to learn today. Spend this time of singleness to find your God-given passions, make new friends, go on adventures, and continue to fall deeply in love with Jesus. God created you for one purpose, and that purpose is to worship Him for how amazing, how good, how loving, how gracious, and how beautiful He is. Whatever God’s plan is for my life, I will use it to grow closer to God, share the good news and praise Him.
God is faithful and you can trust Him…even with your love life.
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