Purity Isn’t All Its Cracked Up To Be…

Hello Ladies,

Let’s talk purity. As young women we are often told we need to be sexually pure which is well…a nice idea…but it’s time to be honest. Is sexual purity even possible? Is this even an attainable goal? You may be thinking that I am crazy by this point but lets just think out loud here for a bit. Grab a nice cup of coffee, a blanket, curl up and lets chat. As women, we are told we lose our purity when we lose our virginity but is it possible that we never actually lose our purity through our virginity. To lose something requires that we had it at some point prior. This leads to the question of, were we ever truly pure? Going back to the beginning we can see we are born sons and daughters of Adam therefore we are born sinners. We will always be tempted by sexual impurity and that doesn’t just mean premarital sex or homosexuality. Sexual impurity can be as simple as lusting after a man, thinking a little too much about that guy, or even fantasizing about a future with a man that is not even yours. No matter how much we like to think we can be completely pure…thats not possible as human beings in a fallen world. If we look at the word pure it means…

-Free of Contamination

-Wholesome

-Untainted by Immorality

-Perfectly in Tune

-Clean

-Irreproachable

…I don’t know about you but I don’t think this fits any of us. How could it? Now, to be clear, I am not saying, do whatever you want and don’t worry about being pure. This is a virtue we are to be constantly working on. Key word here though is WORKING. We will never be perfect at this but if we are truly calling ourselves followers of Jesus then we should be constantly focusing on becoming more like Him. This is not going to be easy. The Bible says to put to death these types of sin. Put to death is a serious action that takes effort. Something doesn’t just die from being looked at but rather we have to be constantly fighting this idol with truth.

“Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.”

Colossians 3:5

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.

Philippians 4:8

So maybe you have some friends that don’t struggle with the same type of sexual impurity that you do…that does not mean God doesn’t love them or you any less. The amazing thing about God is that if you truly believe in Him, when He sees you…He doesn’t see that sin…He sees His Son. Your sexual sins does not define who you are. God defines who you are by what He sees.

So if all you think of when you think of sexual purity is not having premarital sex…I hope this opens your perspective. To the women who have already “lost their purity” …there is hope and restoration through Jesus Christ and we are all working towards purity through Christ. Wherever you are at…don’t forget God has a plan for your life and desires to be near to you…so lets be near.

 

Much Love, Bible and the Bean

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Lies Women Tell Themselves

I am not pretty enough. I am the only one that feels this way. I am not good enough. I am a failure. I am too quiet/loud. I am not worthy. Nobody cares what I have to say. I am too young.

LIES! LIES! LIES!

Ladies! Please stop telling yourself these horrible lies. So often we can find ourselves making these excuses up in our heads when we don’t feel adequate to do something. I can’t be involved in that because I won’t fit in. I can’t help with this because I am too quiet and shy. I can’t go to that event because I wasn’t personally invited (even though it was on the bulletin addressed to all women). No man will ever marry me because I am not pretty enough or I am not a “strong enough Christian”. Are you kidding me? God has created you a masterpiece. God has created you to be a helper. And no this doesn’t mean some second hand, do as I tell you robot, but rather God calls women helpers as a complement. God refers to women with this term as He also refers to the Holy Spirit as being to us. Now I don’t know about you ladies but if God is calling me by a term that He is willing to use for Himself, I should feel more than honored to take that title when my Creator gave it to me. God has created you for good works.

“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”

Ephesians 2:10 

God created you knowing everything about you and yet still wanting a relationship with you (Psalm 139).  So I urge you do not be discouraged and do not continue to tell yourself these lies. Stop fearing man and start fearing God. For you have a God who is strong, and will carry you. You have a God who has already walked through the battle before you even see the battle.

“Cast your burdens on the Lord, and He will sustain you; He will never permit the righteous to be moved.” 

Psalm 55:22

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” 

Philippians 4:6-7 

I urge you don’t be content with just believing you will fight these lies when they come but instead prepare ahead of time so that you may battle well against these lies. Don’t be afraid to write down these lies when you think of them and search Scripture for answers. I still have a piece of scrapbook paper in my Bible from a few years ago that has lies that I have believed and Scripture that combats those lies…as I look at the paper today, many of the verses used to fight these lies I have memorized due from quoting them so often to myself and it has truly been a blessing in my life to be able to quote back Scripture as these lies enter my thoughts.

I am a child of God — John 1:12

I am a friend of Jesus — John 15:15

I am made righteous — 2 Corinthians 5:21

I have been justified — Romans 5:1

I have been redeemed — Ephesians 1:7

I am loved — John 15:9

I am a masterpiece — Ephesians 2:10

I am a new creation — 2 Corinthians 5:17

I am created in God’s image — Genesis 1:27

I am free from sin — Ephesians 3:12

I am a co-heir with Christ — James 2:5

I am called — 2 Timothy 1:9

I am victorious through Christ — John 16:33

I am bought with a price — 1 Corinthians 7:23

I am who God says I am.

 

~Much Love, Bible and the Bean

Just some thoughts…

Hello Ladies,

A lot has happened since my last blog. I have decided to become involved in ministries I never would have expected myself to get involved with, I have made new friends, changed my major/future plans, and we are now nearing thanksgiving and then finals. One thing God has been challenging me with lately is being content with just Him. If God was all I had left, would I still be able to be content? If I flunked out of college, lost all my friends and family, never got married, and was never able to have my dream job, would I still be able to find true joy in Christ? It’s easy to think I would say yes to being completely content and happy with this but to be honest, its a continual process that takes time and will never be something I will not have to work at. There are so many goals that I have planned but ultimately if I am not looking toward Christ my goals will be revolving around myself. BUT, if my intentions are pure and true, God will give me the desires of my heart. If my desires are pure and aligned to Christ’s then my desires will be formed into God’s desires for me.

Psalm 37:4

“Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

 

In love,

BibleandtheBean

Book Bucket List

Hello Ladies,

So many times I have been in a conversation with someone and they are talking about a topic and a book comes to mind. “OOOOOH, Have you read xyz?!?” Is always my reaction. So I decided to make a running list of books on my book bucket list as well as add in books I have read and have loved. So get comfy in a warm oversized sweater in front of a window with the fall leaves falling outside and grab a good book to read!

  • Through Gates of Splendor- Elisabeth Elliot
  • Path of Loneliness- Elisabeth Elliot
  • Mere Christianity- C.S. Lewis
  • The Attributes of God- A.W. Tozer
  • Crazy Love- Francis Chan
  • Follow Me- David Platt
  • Having a Mary Heart in a Martha world- Joanna Weaver
  • When God writes your love story- Eric and Leslie Ludy
  • Desiring God- John Piper
  • I kissed dating goodbye- Joshua Harris
  • Getting Honest with God- Mark Littleton
  • CounterCulture- David Platt
  • Jesus>Religion- Jefferson Bethke
  • It’s not what you think: Why Christianity is about so much more than going to heaven when you die- Jefferson Bethke
  • Thou Shall Prosper- Zabbi Daniel Lapin
  • A return to modesty- Wendy Shalit
  • The lost art of true beauty- Leslie Ludy
  • Authentic Beauty- Leslie Ludy
  • Reimagine- Brent Crowe
  • 12 Ordinary Men- John MacArthur
  • Habits of Grace- David Mathis
  • Fifty reasons why Jesus came to die- John Piper
  • Love does- Bob Goff

Hope this helps when you go to reach for your next book on that perfect fall day!

Much love,

Bible and the Bean

In Constant Awe

Hello Everyone!

As we go throughout the Christian life we can start to get into a rut. This is not to be confused with rythmn or routine but rather this rut can be a deep sense of knowing the stories but not applying them anymore. We should be in complete awe over Christ and the Bible. Have you read it lately? It is pretty amazing and miraculous! To think that there was nothing BUT God in the beginning, and He had the desire to create angels, the world, and even you. The same God that created the sparkly stars, the birds that chirp in the morning, the plants, and even the galaxies, created you! There are over 150 different galaxies and each galaxy is unique in the way that it looks. Then to get better…God decided to create the Milky Way that would contain earth and on that earth, God would place people. These people are not just random though! He carefully crafted each of us to be uniquely made in His image. With each individual He made, He gave different gifts and talents. Not one of His creations would be the exact same. Each person He would give the desire to be close to Him. If it’s not great enough that God created you unique, He gave us each the ability to choose. We can choose whether we want coffee or tea, whether we want to participate in sports or in music, who we want to marry, and ultimately who we want to serve. For the God of the universe to want to create you AND give you a choice of what to do is amazing. I think of my father in this. If my dad told me i had to love him, i would BUT how much more would i love my dad if never told me i HAD to love him but rather He just showed me what it is like to be loved. We are constantly shown how to be loved but yet we have the choice to love God back. To make this story even better, when we sinned God sent His ONLY son to die on the cross.

The cross in Bible times was a way of capital punishment. The cross was created so that people who were hung on it would hang on it for days until they died and if they did not die quick enough, centurions would go and break bones so that the person would not be able to lift themselves up to breathe. Often times, people would stay hung on the cross even after they had died as a way of setting an example to the rest of society.  The Romans had a tradition to get to the execution site the person would have to carry this piece of wood. This piece of wood weighed about 300 pounds and was very awkwardly shaped. This type of death is very slow and very painful. Jesus drank every last drop of God’s wrath. God had been storing up His wrath and it all went out onto Jesus. Jesus took the cup and drank every drop. The fact that Jesus died on a tree relates back to the Garden of Eden when Adam and Eve took fruit from the tree and ate it. The way that sin entered the world was through a tree and the way that salvation through Jesus comes was also on a tree but yet they have significantly different outcomes.

So after looking at the Bible in a different light, we are able to once again be in awe of God. One way we are able to be in constant awe of God is through reading different passages in Scripture as well as being around other believers and talking about what each has found. The insight someone else can bring to topics can often times make us think in a different light. I have found by taking different Bible classes and history classes it has made me more in awe of God because the facts that back up all the stories are so magnificent. Continue to look for different ways to be in awe of truth and to see God in different lights. I promise you, you will be amazed if you search.

“Your relationship with Jesus will set the tone for every other relationship in your life. Fix your eyes on Him and watch how it changes things.”

Much love,

Bible and the Bean

 

Walking the Path of Singleness

Hello Ladies,

Today’s society puts a bad twist on singleness. So often when we are not in a relationship, we think we are behind on the agenda and could even feel the need to fill that position just to fill it. It is so hard to be satisfied with being in this stage of life. It is so hard to rejoice with others that are not in the stage of singleness.

The great thing about this topic is that we can ultimately know that God has a plan. He has a perfect plan and if we are seeking His will for our life, it will all work out. As for me, I have been doing the single life for the past 3 years and its real hard. I often question God, asking Him “Why are you putting all these people around me that are in relationships? God, you are giving me these desires so why can’t you just fulfill them now?” I have found myself praying for God to take these desires away if He is not going to fulfill them. After praying this for a while I started looking at what I was really praying. I wasn’t just praying for God to take away the desires He gave me but I was praying for Him to change His plans for my life. Who am I to know the perfect plans He has created for my life! God is worthy of so much praise, why would I think that I could plan my life better than the Creator of the whole universe. After looking at where I am in life right now, I have come to the realization that it is probably not the best idea for me to be dating someone at this point. Being a sophomore in college

After looking at where I am in life right now, I am starting to see the plans God has made for me. If you had asked me a year ago what I would be doing in 10 years it would be completely different from what I would say now. Looking back on different situations in my life, God has provided the perfect path. He has opened doors He has wanted to open and He has closed doors He has wanted to close. Everything in my life is to point to Christ. All of the fruit that is produced on these branches of mine are only possible because of the vine I am connected to. Without the Vine, I would never be able to bear fruit…I would not even exist. When I start dating I want the man to encourage me in my walk with the Lord but before I can be at that point, I believe God has a bit more work to do in my life to mold my heart into a heart desiring Him. Over these last 2 years specifically, God has been teaching me about the concept of rejoicing and mourning.

Romans 12:15

“Rejoice with those who rejoice; weep with those who weep.”

So if you are in the boat of singleness focus on rejoicing with those who are in that other stage of life but also realize that God has a plan for you.   Don’t waste the season of life you are in now because you want the next one to come. Continue to produce fruit but also continue to point back to the Vine that made it possible. Focus on today and what God has for you to learn today. Spend this time of singleness to find your God-given passions, make new friends, go on adventures, and continue to fall deeply in love with Jesus. God created you for one purpose, and that purpose is to worship Him for how amazing, how good, how loving, how gracious, and how beautiful He is. Whatever God’s plan is for my life, I will use it to grow closer to God, share the good news and praise Him.

God is faithful and you can trust Him…even with your love life.

Much love,

Bible and the Bean

A Time of Waiting

Hello Ladies, 

Have you ever felt like your just waiting for the next stage of life? Waiting to get married, waiting to graduate, waiting to have children. Today’s society is full of waiting for the next big thing to happen next. Lately, I have been spending a lot of time thinking about what to do next with my life. There are so many options and so many doors opening and closing. As I have been in this time of waiting, I have been searching Scripture and realizing that maybe I am not in such bad company as I wait.

Acts 1: 4-5 talks about Jesus and His disciples before He ascends into Heaven. Verse 4 says “While He was together with them, He commanded them not to leave Jerusalem, but to wait for the Father’s promise. “This,” He said, “is what you heard from Me; for John baptized with water, but you will be baptized with the Holy Spirit not many days from now.” 

The disciples were told to wait in Jerusalem after Jesus ascends to be given the Holy Spirit. What a time to wait. The disciples would not know the time or the hour that the Holy Spirit would come to them. The only thing the disciples knew was that they would be given power through the Holy Spirit and from there they would go to all the nations to fulfill the Great Commission. How would you feel waiting during this time?

Exodus 6:2-9 talks about God promising to release the Israelites from the bondage they were under from the Egyptians. God tells Moses to tell the Israelites “I am Yahweh, and I will deliver you from the forced labor of the Egyptians and free you from slavery to them. I will redeem you with an outstretched arm and great acts of judgment. I will be your God. You will know that I am Yahweh your God, who delivered you from the forced labor of the Egyptians. I will bring you to the land that I swore to give to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, and I will give it to you as a possession. I am Yahweh.” 

The Israelites knew something good was coming but they had to wait. The Israelites were under oppression for 400 years and they are finally at the time where God has told them He will release them. The Israelites do not know the plans God has in store but they know they are going to be good. Then to continue the story, the Israelites had to wander in the desert as they waited for the Promise Land. I feel like if I was wandering the desert waiting on the Lord I would start to question Him…but NO! It should be a blessing to wait for the Lord because He is a gracious God and knows the perfect time for us to receive His blessings in due time. What a time to wait in.

1 Samuel 16 -> 2 Samuel 2, Davids journey to the palace. In 1 Samuel 16, we see Samuel anointing the young shepherd boy, David, to be King. This would be such an honor to have but yet David must wait to reign. At the time of David’s anointing, he is a young shepherd boy working in the fields to protect and watch over the sheep. David was the youngest of 8. He was the lowest of the low and definitely not qualified for the position but yet God had other plans. God told Samuel to anoint David and this is where Davids journey begins. David continues on with his life for a while and it is not until 2 Samuel 2 that David is able to take the role of an actual King. God had the perfect plan for David’s life…but…David had to learn to wait on the Lord.

So often, we think that God needs to hurry up and get us where we think we should be. One struggle I have found myself facing is the idea that I need to prepare for what God wants me to do in the future. As a college student, it is not my job right now to be off in a third world country teaching and sharing the Gospel. That is not where God has placed me at this time. I am at college to grow in my faith, be encouraged in my faith, take Bible classes to one day be ready to share the Gospel with the world. I know God gives good gifts and in His perfect timing, so why am I so caught up with taking those gifts now when they are not fully developed to what they need to be?

So to encourage you in this crazy time of waiting… be upward focused not future focused. God has the future in His hands, we do not need to worry about it. Be upward focused and look towards God to guide each step you take as you take it. This does not mean don’t ever save up money or don’t choose a major because you think you shouldn’t plan for the future BUT instead be willing to let your plans change and continue to seek the doors God is opening. Don’t be confused though, just because a door is open doesn’t necessarily mean its open for you. While we are in this stage of waiting, take time to prepare your hearts and get to know God because when you focused on God, He will give you the desires of your heart. If you’re waiting…you’re in good company.

Much love,

Bible and the Bean

 

Introduction

Hello Ladies!

I thought it may be nice to hear a little about my story so here it goes… I was saved at the young age of 4, so like many I questioned my salvation…often. I grew up in a Christian home and a Christian school. So I thought I did not have a testimony because my story was so typical. God has used my story to teach me about His faithfulness and I hope my story can encourage you to dive deep into a relationship with God and get to know Him on a personal level. I can promise you that you will not regret it. Over the last 4 years I have seen God work through many of the stages in my life.

In middle school I was known as a “goody too shoes” because I always tried to follow the rules and I always tried to cover my flaws. I got pretty good at hiding my sins and continued to do this as I got into high school. I guess you could say I was that girl who wasn’t one of the popular kids but I got along with everyone. I was often known as the teacher’s pet. In high school I put my self-worth in my outward appearance, in my grades, in the friends that I had, and in my boyfriend. I found myself frequently putting on a facade of being a good Christian and having my life all together. Through high school I didn’t put much thought into having a relationship with Christ…why would I need that when I knew all the facts and the right things to say? My freshman year of high school I started to date a guy and he became my whole world. This guy became my image of the perfect life. At the end of the summer before my Junior year of high school I started my first job at a coffee shop/ice cream shop. I made many great friends through this experience but it has a strange effect on my faith. My faith still had not been my own at this point but I enjoyed telling people about it. Looking back on this I have no clue why I made this my image when it was a chance I could have started over and been anyone I wanted to. God proved Himself faithful. I was confident in “my faith” but not in Christ. When my senior year came around I decided I hated school and I never wanted to go to college. I knew I would need money to live on but didn’t know what I would do to have money but avoid college. My mom suggested beauty school because it was something I could do while being creative. It sounded like a grand plan until I started to think seriously about it. My parents told me it would be hard to be a stylist for the rest of my life so i decided I would own my own salon and that would please everyone. I wouldn’t have to go to college but I would make enough money to support myself. So continuing with my senior year, my Bible teacher told us we could get extra credit for his class if we went to the college fair and talk to 3 representatives. I went to get the extra credit and ended up talking to a man from Campus Crusades for Christ. My senior year of high school I joined CRU at a local university and made some great friends. This was my first experience seeing people from the outside world, college kids for that matter actively pursuing a life with God. It was amazing! I wanted it. I started to take my faith more serious my senior year of high school. God proved Himself faithful. By middle of my senior year I decided that the guy I had been dating from freshman year was not who I was going to marry. We were not on the same mindset when it came to faith. I had an uneasy feeling in the pit of my stomach but yet we had been dating for 3.5 years and that’s a lot of time to throw down the drain. The Christmas break of my senior year I made the hard decision to break up with the guy. We parted ways and started to pursue different directions. He moved to a different state and I stayed at my high school and finished out the year. God proved Himself faithful in directing my paths. I graduated in May of 2015 and a week later started cosmetology school at a local center. 1500 hours went by as I made new friends and fell in love with cosmetology. Towards the end of cosmetology school I decided college might not be such a bad idea. I did the whole college tour and filled out a grand total of 2 applications. The two schools I applied to had high standards when it came to grades and testing. In high school I was the average A-B student but when it came to testing I did not do well at all. The school I really wanted to go to, I was told I would not get accepted into since my testing scores were too low. I got the acceptance letter from the other school and was about to accept the fact that I would be attending the school I did not really want to go to…until my mom suggested I check my application for the other school online. I was accepted into the school of my dreams! God proved Himself faithful. I now am in my second year and still just as in love with it as I was when I first heard about it. God has opened and closed doors as I have been here and I have seen Him working throughout my life. I can honestly say I am closer to God now more than I ever have been. I am continuing to grow in my walk with the Lord through chapels, student life, and discipleship ministries. God has slowly been changing my heart to desire Him more and more and He has started to open my heart to desire His will for my life. God continues to be faithful and though I may feel lost and lonely and confused and worthless at times I am constantly reminded how good God is, how much He loves me, and has created me in His image. I am a daughter of the KING and nobody can take that away. It will always be a battle fighting against sin but i know that God will continue to love me and continue to walk alongside me as I pursue Him in all that i do.

So hopefully this gives you a little insight on who I am and what I am passionate about. I look forward to sharing more thoughts and things that I learn about God through this outlet.

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Much love, Bible and the Bean